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Sacrifice is very important to the Lord and He respects individuals on the basis of their sacrifices.
He has his ideas of how we should live our lives and He wants it dedicated to him through sacrificial living.
Marriage is one area of our lives that He expects to show a lot of sacrifices.
For marriages to succeed couples must make a lot of sacrifices and it'll depends on how much you want your marriage to succeed because the whole essence of marital relationships are sacrificial.
You firstly sacrificed your freedom and a lot of your rights to embrace your spouse because the Bible demands that you live in oneness and in all humility.
All these pay you in the service of your God.
These basic sacrifices lead you into greater sacrifice in your relationship with the almighty God. You see yourself only in obedience to the word of God in your marriage.
God asks men to love their wives and women to respect their husbands because these what is difficult for them to do but they are not doing because of their spouse but because of their obedience to God's word.
Second reason why a marriage may collapse is when spouses don't want to obey God.
God created the institution of marriage and it is for the purpose to build people's character to maturity in order that man may fulfill destiny.
God's ultimate purpose for man is that he may fulfill destiny and be rewarded for it.
But man don't want to obey God and they come up with different kinds of reason to live a life of disobedience.
Marriage is obedience to God's words so when you marry because of your spouse marriage does not have the meaning it ought to have like when you marry because of God.
First of all you must know God and be ready to obey him according to his words in the Bible.
Your spouse does not make the laws about fornication for example so when you fornicate you must know that you sin against God and not your spouse because your spouse may not know and when he or she knows he needn't take the laws into his hands but must allow God to do justice.
But because people don't know God nor accept his words for his words so they do their will then marriage collapse and trauma sets in.
Sometimes God wants to use your spouse to sharpen your life.
He wants to use your spouse to humble you because your pride will not allow you to fulfill the destiny prepared for you by God.
Many need to be humble before they can be useful in the hands of God and it's their spouse God is going to use.
That's why when your spouse is acting anyhow inquire from God what to do and you will be surprised what God will say.
God told Abraham when he had problems with Sarah, to chase away the bond woman and her son.
It was very hard for Abraham. If anyone told you the easy way out of your problems then it's not God's word.
You only see pride in the lives of others never in our own lives.
There's nothing that can destroy a man more than pride.
God cannot have anything to do with a proud man or woman.
Pride destroy marriage faster than even fornication.
The word of God says humble yourself under the mighty hands of God and in due time He will lift you up but people don't really want to obey and their marriages collapse.
God also said 'husbands love your wives and wives respect your husbands' but people don't want to obey.
Disobedience to the word of God makes marriages collapse and bring immeasurable trauma.
When spouses want multiple partners as against just one that marriages can take that marriage will come under stress and it may collapse.
Human beings are naturally not faithful, an ingredient marriages néed for sustainance but they hide under different kinds of pretense to access other partners.
Many will point to the example that others are doing it with success that is managing multiple relationships at the same time which of course is not true but are overridden by their emotional desires.
Collapse may not necessarily be physical or socially but emotionally or loyally or any other form.
Sometimes spouses deceive themselves and claim they are being honest and that they are parting ways with mutual understanding but it is a collapse.
They are parting ways to go into another relationship which is the primary reason they are no more interested in their relationships.
If you don't want another partner when you have problems with one you wouldn't get involved with another person. And you find a way to work things out.
No amount of money can make a spouse faithful. Unless he or she can overcomes that desire for multiple sexual partners.
When spouses meet they know that their partner is not going to be perfect but after a while they begin to complain about this imperfections which is actually hypocritical everyone has his or her own faults but expects to get what he or she cannot give.
So the desire for multiple sexual partners is what the devil is capitalizing upon to bring a marriage to collapse.
Many don't know really or do not want to accept it but that is the truth.
So if you really don't want a marriage collapse you must overcome the desires for multiple sexual partners. Marriage collapses brings a lot of trauma.
WHY ITS NOT A BAD IDEA FOR DJ CUPPY TO ATTEND PASTOR ADEBOYE’S ‘PRAYERS FOR THE SINGLES’ PROGRAM
Written by Kayode Olorundare
Teni Otedola otherwise known as DJ Cuppy has made a lot hue and cry over the media in recent times about her desire for a reasonable relationship that could lead her to the altars.
But at 32 she's not at at all too old to be single.
Yes she's very eligible dashing and young, particularly when her junior sister just got married and is also a heiress to Nigerian billionaire Femi Otedola it's not a bad idea to expect her to have a steady suitor.
DJ Cuppy who is a maverick and a star has a profile that could be really intimidating and even if you look back at her previous relationships or rumored relationships with men like Anthony Joshua or Ryan Taylor or Victor Anichebe. Any man may have to consider his media presence before considering a relationship.
She's not likely to get a partner as easily as her sister Teni who allowed herself and her spouse to grow into the stature of an Otedola couple and should therefore stop worrying about her eligibility.
She should attend the Papa Adeboye program because she needs to develop a steady relationship with her maker. And not just because of her relationships challenges alone.
And she must begin to put her purpose and ambition in life in the hands of her maker.
She had wisely conducted herself up to this time and a deeper relationship with God will certainly not be a bad idea.
There are a lot of other young ladies like her who think money can buy all things, genuine relationships are priceless.
For some their patience will be tested beyond the limits.