Second reason why a marriage may collapse is when spouses don't want to obey God.

God created the institution of marriage and it is for the purpose to build people's character to maturity in order that man may fulfill destiny.

God's ultimate purpose for man is that he may fulfill destiny and be rewarded for it.

But man don't want to obey God and they come up with different kinds of reason to live a life of disobedience.

Marriage is obedience to God's words so when you marry because of your spouse marriage does not have the meaning it ought to have like when you marry because of God.

First of all you must know God and be ready to obey him according to his words in the Bible.

Your spouse does not make the laws about fornication for example so when you fornicate you must know that you sin against God and not your spouse because your spouse may not know and when he or she knows he needn't take the laws into his hands but must allow God to do justice.

But because people don't know God nor accept his words for his words so they do their will then marriage collapse and trauma sets in.

Sometimes God wants to use your spouse to sharpen your life.

He wants to use your spouse to humble you because your pride will not allow you to fulfill the destiny prepared for you by God.

Many need to be humble before they can be useful in the hands of God and it's their spouse God is going to use.

That's why when your spouse is acting anyhow inquire from God what to do and you will be surprised what God will say.

God told Abraham when he had problems with Sarah, to chase away the bond woman and her son.

It was very hard for Abraham. If anyone told you the easy way out of your problems then it's not God's word.

You only see pride in the lives of others never in our own lives.

There's nothing that can destroy a man more than pride.

God cannot have anything to do with a proud man or woman.

Pride destroy marriage faster than even fornication.

The word of God says humble yourself under the mighty hands of God and in due time He will lift you up but people don't  really want to obey and their marriages collapse.

God also said 'husbands love your wives and wives respect your husbands' but people don't want to obey.

Disobedience to the word of God makes marriages collapse and bring immeasurable trauma.